Ending a relationship is one of hardest things you ever have to do.
Sometimes, relationships deteriorate, people and circumstances change. Breaking up becomes the only viable option.
Many couples continue to suffer the misery of unhappy relationships because being alone or hurting each other’s feelings scares them. But do you really want to continue in such a relationship?
Do not make the mistake of doing it through the phone or through texts or definitely not by changing your relationship status on Facebook
It may also result in a life time of blind hate which might be rather inconvenient if both parties run in the same social circle.
So, what you need are a few guidelines to ensure that your break up is as amicable as possible. Here are a few:
The first thing that you need to do is to identify the actual reason for you wanting the end your relationship. Wade through the superfluous ones and when you find it, be honest with your partner. Honesty is what you, your partner and your relationship deserve. Share your thoughts and discuss it with each other.
Proper timing is very important in breaking up. Although there is never a good time, look for a time that is convenient for both of you. Do not make the mistake of doing it through the phone or through texts or definitely not by changing your relationship status on Facebook. Instead, have the courtesy to do it face to face. However, if you’re in a long distance relationship, and you can’t wait until you meet, you may end it through a phone call.
Be compassionate when you end your relationship. Refrain from bandying harsh words, accusations and playing the blame game. Be cordial and dignified when you explain your reasons for ending it. Tell your partner about the affection you still hold for them and that you will always cherish these memories. Even if they say something that is hurtful to you, try to not let it affect you. This is just their broken heart talking.
It is always better to end things in such a manner that both of you can remain friends or go back to being buddies in the future.
Dealing with a break up means that your ex might still want to see you from time to time or they might just want you to give them some space. Allow them whatever they need to cope during the time of transition. Do not allow their emotions to make you feel guilty. If you had the correct reasons for ending it, the decision was right for both of you.
Reconnecting in the future might be something for the both of you to consider. But if you are really determined to extricate yourself from the relationship, give yourself a break, look forward and move on. Meet new people and get yourself involved in different activities.
With time, the scars from your break up will heal. They say “time is the greatest healer,” and that’s pretty much true indeed even in such a scenario.